If we look at the statistics of percentage of world population indulged in wrong habits such as alcoholism, tobacco, drugs, etc. the percentage of people practicing Anger would be way higher than the combined percentage of all other wrong habits.  Hence, let’s talk about anger first.

You are a peaceful soul.  Your first duty is to take care of your body and mind.  For peace of your mind you have to abstain from anger.  Stay away from people and substance that cause you to lose your temper.

Getting angry is a wrong karma, and holding on to anger is a continuous process of doing wrong karma.

Almost everyone believes that what goes around comes around.  In other words, people vaguely know that bad things happen to them because they did something wrong.  But, they don’t understand what wrong they do that is causing unsuccess and failure in their lives.  In most cases, the answer is, ‘anger’.  Most people do not steal, cheat, or hurt anybody.  Yet, they are unhappy.  The reason is their anger. Acts like stealing, cheating, or hurting anybody are not the only wrong karmas; being angry on anybody is equally a wrong karma.

You cannot change others; you can only change yourself.  But still, many a time you will have to discipline somebody to do, ‘Right’ things knowing that you are trying to CHANGE the person for his or her good.  Remember, if that’s done WITHOUT ANGER then you are really trying to change the person for his or her, ‘good’.  However, if that’s done WITH ANGER then you are actually trying to satisfy your EGO.  Ever you try to change anybody, do it without anger absolutely.  Even if that takes a hundred attempts.

Life is ten percent what happens to us, and ninety percent how we react to it.  When we react in anger, we mess up everything.  Anger spoils everything.  You may be right, you may be logical, and you may be truthful.  But, if you angry while trying to prove your point, chances of your failure is extremely high.  Remember this golden rule- when two people disagree, third person will always take side of the person who is not angry or less angry than the other.

Ninety percent of marriage counseling fail because counselor doesn’t know that the wrong person is very clever; controls anger; whereas the right person is a fool; loses temper; and the counselor ends up believing that the cool wrong person is victim, and the angry right person is the culprit.  The counselor give verdict in favor or the cool wrong person; and counseling fails.

So, I repeat, your being right, your being logical, and your being honest, will all become useless if you show any anger, because at the end your anger will override all your good qualities.  So, anger is the first and foremost wrong habit you need to give up.